Life & Death Cycles
I know deep down that I will be okay, I know if I surrender to the universe, to God, that everything will work out as it is supposed to in its divine timing. It takes going through a lot of death cycles to trust that life arrives on the other side. And when you find yourself in the middle of the two, just be, it is time for grieving. When we experience a cycle of death in our lives, and by death, I mean change. The end of a relationship, a career, the realisation that life has taken a different path and you’ll never be the same woman again. The death of what you thought your life was going to look like, when your expectations crumble right in front of you. This is when things are born. Thing’s don’t die without a purpose of changing your life for the better.
I remember when I went through a breakup of a long-term relationship, my life as I knew it at the time was pulled right underneath me. And man did it throw me right into the pits of grief. Yet this experience birthed not only a different version of myself, but new friendships were also born, new ideas, new experiences, and a sense of freedom of how I wanted and could live my life was right in front of me.
A lot of us struggle to even trust ourselves, let alone surrender our trust to something we can’t even see. The hardest part is getting comfortable with the not knowing. In our society today we are drowning in choice and are often holding onto the false sense of control of our lives so tightly we have forgotten how to breath. We write 5-year plans into our journals and dedicate each day of our lives to achieving each goal on that list. Then what happens? we tick off our list after those 5 years, our success is bittersweet and often underwhelming and we feel at a loss of what we do next. When our sense of identity is attached to what we will achieve, we will never get off that treadmill.
If you’re clinging to anything you’re resisting the natural slow of who you are. Like the seasons of our natural world, leaves die for flowers to grow. Trust the season you’re in and let things die as they should and watch your life bloom in areas you never would of guessed.
In a quote that hit hard ‘what you try to control, controls you’. So, I encourage you to ask yourself, what is controlling you and how can you let the tides of the seasons come and go with surrender?
By Grace Melita
What you try to control
controls you
